Wednesday, June 12, 2013


“I don’t change for anyone. Love me for who I am or I don’t need you in my life.”

This is a statement I saw a lady post on Instagram fairly recently. I read this and thought to myself, “I hope she’s okay with being alone then”. Honestly people, we’ve got to stop trying to live in this “all or nothing”, “my way or the highway” farce of a world. People change everyday B! (Rico Voice).

Change is a part of life. Change comes with growth. So why wouldn’t one change for love? Now before you get all up in arms, I’m not saying you have to change every single thing about you for anyone. But you best believe, for love to work, change is necessary.

I don’t know one person who said they loved somebody for exactly the person they are, and that person never had to make a change. Even if the change was relatively minor, a change was made. More times than not, I’d imagine your love for a person may naturally change you in some way, shape, or form. There’s a woman who I was in love with. My love for her made me want to make certain changes in myself for her; for us! She loved me, but she also wished some things about me would change. I made changes, we prospered. I still had more changes to make. I didn’t make them in time. We broke up, and understandably so. But had I not made changes along the way, we wouldn’t have lasted as long as we did at the time, and vice versa.

Again, I’m not saying to change for just any ol’ body. What I’m saying is find somebody worth making some changes for, and act accordingly. Chances are, if the love is strong betwixt the two of you, they may not ask for a world of change; maybe just a state or two.

“I don’t change for anyone”. Oh we all change for someone. Whether it’s our boss, family member, close friend, teacher, Mark Zuckerberg *shrugs*, we change for someone. Even if you aren’t conscious of it, we do. Don’t be fooled. It’s okay to add one more person to that list…the person you find love with!

“Love me for who I am or I don’t need you in my life”. Wrong! Wrong! (Charlie Murphy voice). We all need someone in our lives. We all want/need love in our lives. For all my “believers” out there, isn’t that what man and woman were put on this earth for? To compliment and complete each other amongst all the other stuff? What makes you any different? I hear women speak this “I don’t need a man” shit all the time. YES! YOU! DO! Just because you may be able to live without one doesn’t mean you don’t need one. Hell, I can live without toothpaste and toilet paper, but you best believe I NEED that shit!

So good people, if this touched a wicked nerve for you then you probably needed to read this more than most. And to that I say mission accomplished! I’ve heard that in all things in this world change is inevitable. Not SOME things, all THINGS! The sooner you embrace this concept, the sooner you’ll be able to find that person worth changing for. But hey, what do I know?


  1. You nailed it with this one Nitty.

  2. Let people help you change for the better, but not bring you down. Sometimes people don't understand the difference. :)

  3. did u u have a mic in ur hand? Did u just drop it and walk the hell off the stage!!!! Daaaaaamn!! U crushed this!! loved it!!!

  4. *NITTY POINT* always spot on. Love that you threw the word betwixt in there, too!