“Why be in a relationship if you’re going to lie?”
How many times have you heard that line? So many people believe that there should/will never be any lies in a perfect relationship. What is a perfect relationship anyway? We may have to address that in the next blog post. But I digress. A relationship isn’t necessarily bad if there are lies that are told. Just like many facets of a relationship (or life in general), it’s all relative. Let’s look deeper into this.
If your woman asks you if she looks fat or ugly in an outfit, you may have been taught to tell her she looks fine, just to avoid any conflict. This is an instance where the truth should probably be told; because if you think she looks bad (and you’re a man) then lord knows who else will share your same feeling. The same applies vice versa. Don’t you want your better half to look like your better half? I believe issues like how your lady looks in a dress or to-do’s on a list shouldn’t be lied about. What are you truly protecting by lying about it? If the truth were to come out that you lied about these little things, then your bf/gf might wonder what else you’re capable of lying about.
Sometimes lies are just plain necessary. Yea I said it! Let’s be honest (no pun intended), if we told the truth to our significant others 100% of the time, then they’d probably break up with us about 80% percent of the time. Can you imagine always telling your girlfriend or boyfriend every time you had a lustful thought about another person if they asked? How about if they ask how many people you had sex with (assuming you had a high number)? Or if they questioned whether you’d be into certain things that you know they’re not (i.e. orgies, swinging, anything)?
Countless times I’ve heard women ask “why must a man lie about cheating on his woman.” He lied because he doesn’t want to lose his woman. He wants to keep his relationship in tact! If he told the truth, she might up and leave. “Then why not leave her for the other woman?” He may have 100 reasons for that. Now I’m not going to get into the whole why men cheat debate, but you wanted the truth, and there’s your truth.
People don’t really want to know the truth to the questions they ask. They wish to believe they want to know, but they soon find out they can’t handle the truth. Even as much as I’d like to believe that I can accept any truth my woman tells me. She may possibly be holding the one straw that could break this camel’s back. Lying in a relationship may not be the most positive method on the surface, but it might possibly be the best option considering all possible alternatives. There’s some truth for you. Now can you handle that?