“Why be in a relationship if you’re going to lie?”
How many times have you heard that line? So many people believe that there should/will never be any lies in a perfect relationship. What is a perfect relationship anyway? We may have to address that in the next blog post. But I digress. A relationship isn’t necessarily bad if there are lies that are told. Just like many facets of a relationship (or life in general), it’s all relative. Let’s look deeper into this.
If your woman asks you if she looks fat or ugly in an outfit, you may have been taught to tell her she looks fine, just to avoid any conflict. This is an instance where the truth should probably be told; because if you think she looks bad (and you’re a man) then lord knows who else will share your same feeling. The same applies vice versa. Don’t you want your better half to look like your better half? I believe issues like how your lady looks in a dress or to-do’s on a list shouldn’t be lied about. What are you truly protecting by lying about it? If the truth were to come out that you lied about these little things, then your bf/gf might wonder what else you’re capable of lying about.
Sometimes lies are just plain necessary. Yea I said it! Let’s be honest (no pun intended), if we told the truth to our significant others 100% of the time, then they’d probably break up with us about 80% percent of the time. Can you imagine always telling your girlfriend or boyfriend every time you had a lustful thought about another person if they asked? How about if they ask how many people you had sex with (assuming you had a high number)? Or if they questioned whether you’d be into certain things that you know they’re not (i.e. orgies, swinging, anything)?
Countless times I’ve heard women ask “why must a man lie about cheating on his woman.” He lied because he doesn’t want to lose his woman. He wants to keep his relationship in tact! If he told the truth, she might up and leave. “Then why not leave her for the other woman?” He may have 100 reasons for that. Now I’m not going to get into the whole why men cheat debate, but you wanted the truth, and there’s your truth.
People don’t really want to know the truth to the questions they ask. They wish to believe they want to know, but they soon find out they can’t handle the truth. Even as much as I’d like to believe that I can accept any truth my woman tells me. She may possibly be holding the one straw that could break this camel’s back. Lying in a relationship may not be the most positive method on the surface, but it might possibly be the best option considering all possible alternatives. There’s some truth for you. Now can you handle that?
SOME OF THE PEOPLE IN THIS PIC, CAN B BRUTALLY HONEST, BUT ALSO KNOW WHEN TO LIE. SOMETIMES IT'S ABOUT PICKING YOUR BATTLES PEOPLE.
ReplyDeleteHomey in the background kinda look like TI....but anyway.....I can't stand lying...I don't care how big or small it is....if you lie and I find out the truth, which I will hands down.....I'm breakin dishes up in here! My thing is....if you're gonna lie....you better be EXTRA tight with your alibi because if not.....there will be HELL to pay.
ReplyDeleteThank You. The End.
LOL. EVERYBODY SAYS THAT ABOUT HIM...& BREAKIN' DISHES? LOL. SO YOU'VE NEVER LIED TO YOUR PARTNER G?
ReplyDeleteNOPE! I just tell it like it is because it's too much work trying to find new lies to cover up old lies....I'm not saying i'm extra open about everything....(which is not lying)...but if i need to tell him something, i'm just gonna tell it. Not make up something.
ReplyDeleteoh: breakin dishes re: the Rihanna song. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PVPy3w4opK0
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, for the most part. Even though it may sometimes be ok to tell small lies to protect the other persons feelings, it's the self serving lies that get people in trouble. For instance, with cheating, if you lie about cheating it's to protect yourself more than the other person, because you're afraid of the consequences of your actions. I think those kinds of lies can be the most destructive if the truth ever comes out because then not only are you quilty of whatever you felt the need to lie about, but on top of that you're a liar, and in the instance of cheating, you've most likely defeated your whole purpose of protecting your relationship. I may be different from most people but if I ask someone something I feel like I've already considered that I may not like their response. Though it may come as a shock or be hurtful, etc., if I ask then I really want to know the truth. Sometimes the truths that you "can't handle" are the things you need to know the most. As for the small lies (ie "Do I look fat in this?"), yes they keep the peace and sometimes that's best, but sometimes you need to know the truth. How else are you going to improve?
ReplyDelete@G I AUTOMATICALLY THOUGHT ABOUT RIHANNA WHEN YOU SAID BREAKING DISHES LOL. THANKS 4 THE COMMENTS STEPH, YOU MAKE SOME SENSE FINALLY...I'M J/K (BUT I'M NOT)
ReplyDeletePoint blank period. Wait for the right person who can accept your lies and truths. They only come once in a lifetime. :)
ReplyDeleteI'm with Gerri on this one! Lying to me is like taking me for granted in my eyes; it's an insult to my intelligence.
ReplyDeleteNo need to lie about lusting for someone else because we all do it so why lie about it?! If you cheat I'm going to find out so either we agree to have an open relationship so we don't have to lie or we keep to our commitment to each other. If you don't want me cheating on you then don't cheat on me, it's that simple.
Now if you don't like something I'm wearing or something like that then I expect you to tell me as my significant other you should have my back and help make sure I always look my best and so on because we are reflections of one another and best believe if I think you looking crazy I'm going to tell you no matter how much you want to wear a certain color or type of hat or whatever
Lieing is the worst!
Amen to Koren. i don't even need to say anything else. Nitty... I am looking forward to you delving into men who cheat and women with attitudes... keep them coming :)
ReplyDeleteNO DOUBT SHEFITPRO! I DEF. WILL!
ReplyDeleteLiars tell the truth. The end.
ReplyDeleteNobody wants to be lied to, but I have learned that many people can not handle the truth when it comes there way. Example u used, does this dress make me look fat, how many of us really want to hear yeah, or nah the dress don't make you look fat, it's your fat that makes you look fat.
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