tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post790871543098609804..comments2023-05-28T08:07:11.367-04:00Comments on HEAD TO HEAD- -HOW IT GOES DOWN BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN: WHAT'S BLACK WHITE AND RED ALL OVERO.G. NITTYhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08151014890636688944noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-31909920434240255262010-05-04T07:53:19.360-04:002010-05-04T07:53:19.360-04:00Damn Gerri! Just because it's me you had to gi...Damn Gerri! Just because it's me you had to give pause???? LOLMr. Goodnighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02411040110473599999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-12514877250590390632010-05-03T22:34:31.605-04:002010-05-03T22:34:31.605-04:00As always you brought up a lot of interesting poin...As always you brought up a lot of interesting points. As a guy that was in a relationship with an Asian girl for 2 years I heard all of what you are talking about in this post. The only good that people saw in the relationship was that we would have cute lil Asian and black babies. I got the looks, I heard the name calling, and all that foul stuff. At the end of the day we were together because we wanted to be, however it was a rough situation because her parents were so traditional that they would never accept me. We kept it going for a while, but I think that and a couple other factors confused her. At the end of the day though people just need to go after what they like. I still get the jokes about dating Asian girls, but that won't stop me from dating another one if the right situation presents itself.<br /><br />GOOD POST!EriKonasis1313https://www.blogger.com/profile/10201017919934195686noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-24881946539356638402010-05-02T13:14:46.200-04:002010-05-02T13:14:46.200-04:00Another thing is that black men like to "blam...Another thing is that black men like to "blame" black women for being single. By saying that there is something wrong with us which is why we are single. But that can't be the case (at least not solely the case), because there are just TOO MANY single, educated, attractive, well employed, independent black women. It can't be that ALL of these black women have self sabotaging behaviors that cause them to be single against their will. So please, let's stop blaming women for being single, when statistically we are all aware that the numbers alone contribute to the lack of significant relationships between black men and women.SunnyGLighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797901521883984238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-2074615585308066892010-05-02T13:10:07.961-04:002010-05-02T13:10:07.961-04:00oh...i didn't realize that was you Rob! lol.....oh...i didn't realize that was you Rob! lol....but yes. you are still right. Thanks.SunnyGLighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797901521883984238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-1983660067367478342010-05-02T13:09:22.830-04:002010-05-02T13:09:22.830-04:00yes Mr. Goodnight....Perfectly stated!yes Mr. Goodnight....Perfectly stated!SunnyGLighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797901521883984238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-22298521112070407422010-04-29T21:27:46.803-04:002010-04-29T21:27:46.803-04:00As a white man who dates black women (please don&#...As a white man who dates black women (please don't hate me for taking your black women) I have experienced the backlash of dating outside of my race. I have gotten the weird looks, sideways comments, and whispers. Most of the time it is from other black people and not white. White people never say anything to me about it except an initial "you date black girls?" Black men and women are the ones who act funky about it. For instance I had a dude approach me about a chick I was dating at the time and question me about it, but he stayed slaying white chicks! I never saw him with a black girl, EVER! So go figure!<br /><br />As to Gerri's point and Bahu's question, there just simply is not enough black men. First, women out number men period. Second, there is a disproportionate amount of black men ages 18-34 being thrown in prison or being killed. Third, of all black people enrolling in college 60% are women. And black women are graduating from college at an even greater clip. So when it comes to a 25 year old college educated black women, her chances of finding a black men with a similar pedigree are slim. So she is left with the choice of being single, becoming polyamorous, or dating outside of her race.<br /><br />Lastly, from reading "The Conversation" for Franco's book club (nice little plug) and listening to a segment on Big Tig's morning show in DC called "No Disrespect" there is a lot of anger between black men and women. Men, especially, were going in on black women during the segment. Hill Harper touches on it too in the book. I wouldn't want to date someone who already deeply angered by me and angry with me before I even introduce myself regardless of my race. So until an understanding is reach and the anger dissipates how are healthy relationships supposed to bloom?Mr. Goodnighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02411040110473599999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-84176546676106024242010-04-29T09:53:29.131-04:002010-04-29T09:53:29.131-04:00and yes....white women do have something to offer ...and yes....white women do have something to offer that black women don't.....and that's white privilege.SunnyGLighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797901521883984238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-41036471347007233322010-04-29T09:51:36.116-04:002010-04-29T09:51:36.116-04:00Because the selection is slim to none. The older ...Because the selection is slim to none. The older you get the worse it gets. And people often....too often use the "date outside your race" excuse as a suggestion or "cure" for being a single black woman in relation to this debate.SunnyGLighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797901521883984238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-63684138924616294852010-04-28T20:16:37.009-04:002010-04-28T20:16:37.009-04:00O this is Bahu by the way.....didnt see that I cou...O this is Bahu by the way.....didnt see that I could put my name.Bahunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-80685983062902753522010-04-28T20:15:35.786-04:002010-04-28T20:15:35.786-04:00Oh this is Bahu by the way.....didnt see that I co...Oh this is Bahu by the way.....didnt see that I could put my nameBahunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-23378795171279085102010-04-28T20:14:44.073-04:002010-04-28T20:14:44.073-04:00G, Im just curious as to why you feel there is no ...G, Im just curious as to why you feel there is no choice.....that you HAVE to date outside of your race?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-3506793454590014232010-04-28T17:34:51.639-04:002010-04-28T17:34:51.639-04:00but on a more serious note. Yes it's politica...but on a more serious note. Yes it's politically correct to say that one "should" be colorblind.....but the reality is, it can be challenging to be a black female, have a lot to offer, be single, and then see a fine, professional, educated, black man with a white woman. It's like wow...really?! White people are generally in far better financial, emotional, and every other kind of situation than we as black people are. And yes, it can cause some tension when you see that the last thing that a black woman can have is a black man who has ruled her out. <br /><br />I AM a single black female who has dated outside of my race. I have dated outside of MANY barriers, if not ALL of them....so i'm not closed minded, yet I do feel like I have "lost" something to a white woman when i see a black man that I would actually go after. And yes it does cause some sense of intimidation and I would imagine that it has something to do with generational influence on how black/white tensions have developed and been sustained over the years. Am I insecure? Who isn't ....No one is flawless and no one lacks any type of insecurity, but being that the competition is already so stiff between black women looking for a black man, then you start throwing in the fact that all of these "other" women have more influence in hooking a long-term relationship with black men, yes it does leave a sting. <br /><br />With that said....no I don't get hype about it and tell black people not to date others....again I do it (have done it at least), but I'm just saying I understand how black women feel when they see that. It's not right. It's not fair. It's not even intelligent to do.....but it happens, and there is a legitimate reason for it. <br /><br />Also....the fact that black women MUST date outside their race is really lame....no other racial group is forced to do such a thing. They have the option to do it....and yes that can cause some women to be angry. People are biologically drawn to similar people, so to have no choice but to step outside of that is never taken easily. It would be one thing if it was more of a choice, but it's not. And frankly, that's the reality of the situation.<br /><br />Now....i know some of ya'll gonna be pissed.....just try not to judge me please! lol....Thanks. <br /><br />Ok bye.SunnyGLighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797901521883984238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-6596181064084038222010-04-28T17:23:04.625-04:002010-04-28T17:23:04.625-04:00Who cares either way? If they have a penis they&#...Who cares either way? If they have a penis they're gonna be an asshole. Thank You. The End.SunnyGLighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03797901521883984238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-91238255027189803132010-04-27T16:20:24.305-04:002010-04-27T16:20:24.305-04:00Stephanie C, I have to agree with you on the intim...Stephanie C, I have to agree with you on the intimidation part. I think that there is an assumption that the white woman may have something the black woman cannot offer. Naturally I haven't done any research to know the stats on this, but my personal observation seems to side with intimidation...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01424035797873047795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-4977148916470676692010-04-27T10:10:58.307-04:002010-04-27T10:10:58.307-04:00That is a darn good spin Silent H! Maybe these wom...That is a darn good spin Silent H! Maybe these women feel like they can't compete and don't stand a chance against someone that is so "different" from them. Or maybe they assume that because, for example, the black man is with a white woman that he automatically doesn't like black women, which isn't necessarily the case, and they just remove themselves from the equation. Not saying that you should be a homewrecker or steal anybodys man or anything under any circumstances. Good question!Stephanie C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11198282699471736464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-20320394358141492682010-04-26T18:28:18.062-04:002010-04-26T18:28:18.062-04:00THAT'S SOME GOOD FOOD 4 THOUGHT H. ANYBODY CA...THAT'S SOME GOOD FOOD 4 THOUGHT H. ANYBODY CARE 2 RESPOND?O.G. NITTYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08151014890636688944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-92133453912209482202010-04-26T17:37:19.050-04:002010-04-26T17:37:19.050-04:00Just to add a small spin on the topic... Black wo...Just to add a small spin on the topic... Black women do seem to have the biggest (blatant) issue with interracial dating concerning white women "stealing" good Black men. If the good black man was with a black woman, but another black woman wanted him, I am under the belief she would fight to take him or have less hesitation in being a home wrecker. Why is it that Black women don't seem to be quite as concerned with fighting for men they supposedly "lost" to another race??? are they intimidated?!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01424035797873047795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-24163971008408322402010-04-26T10:00:01.020-04:002010-04-26T10:00:01.020-04:00I'm not against interracial dating and I'v...I'm not against interracial dating and I've never been one of those people to look at people funny just because they date someone of a different color. I would even be open to doing it myself. What's funny to me is that the same people that complain about this type of thing (mostly black women, in my opinion) will be the first ones crying about how they can't find a man. Of course you can't, you automatically eliminated over half of the male population! A lot of people fought long and hard to prove that we are all equal, so why would you limit yourself? The white girl that you're frowning your face at didn't limit herself which is why she has the man! Half the time, the people that want to judge wouldn't give that guy/girl the time of day if they were walking down the street alone anyway. At the end of the day dating should be about character not color and as long as you're with a person of good character, nothing else is really anybody elses concern. However, I do have to say, I will give you the side eye if I see hot guy/girl with busted looking girl/guy no matter what color you are! What is that about!?? LOL! Different topic for a different day. :)Stephanie C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11198282699471736464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-6194749236514078342010-04-21T16:43:55.675-04:002010-04-21T16:43:55.675-04:00In my opinion, people who get so angry about the i...In my opinion, people who get so angry about the interracial dating are either insecure or they want the person dating outside of their race. I say they are insecure because they probably are making assumptions about why one person chose another and they really don't know. If someone is in a good relationship, they probably are not concerned with who ther people are dating.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-33106081323841733602010-04-21T16:26:41.813-04:002010-04-21T16:26:41.813-04:00I believe to each their own, if a person finds som...I believe to each their own, if a person finds somebody of another race that adds to their happiness kudos to them. The only thing I tell my friends that date peple of other races is that whom ever you date just make sure the person is about something, and I tell the same thing to my friends that date people of the same race. Nobody wants a deadbeat of any race. Personally, I have not wanted to date anybody of another race, but when I see an interracial couple I don't wonder why they are with one another. I could care less. As far as the argument that the children will be messed up behind this, how many crazy ass motherf^#kers we know and they have parents of the same race? There are people in life who are going to talk about others no matter what is going on, so what the hell. I always say they talked about Jesus Christ, who r we?tlee26https://www.blogger.com/profile/01500854722096702797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5974144034126414926.post-50717446346755429422010-04-21T08:59:31.044-04:002010-04-21T08:59:31.044-04:00Frankly, Franco, the argument is tired! People nee...Frankly, Franco, the argument is tired! People need to mind their business and let shit be. "Oh well so and so wants to date a White dude/woman!" And? What are you really going to do about it? Just stare at them real hard? Make them uncomfortable? Most likely, it's happened dozens of times before and it's probably not going to break them up. <br /><br />I get so sick of women running around getting upset about a black dude with some white girl. That energy you use to get angry about something like that can be used to find your own man. The same can be said vice versa.<br /><br />People make mountains out of molehills. Folks just like who they like and find love with lots of different people. I'm one of those people. There are millions of men in this world that I might be compatible with that run the gamut of ethnicities and I won't shut myself out of any possibilities. It's not up to anyone else to make that decisions for me.Liznoreply@blogger.com